Hopefully you have Haddaway's What is Love stuck in your head, because it's a great song. If not, listen to the song while you read this post!
This post is dedicated to everyone. Especially those who are suffering with personal tragedies. Including the people who feel the need to express hatred, violence, and terror. Even they need love.
Love is one of the most incredible gifts the world has been provided with. No one gives love enough credit. There are so many people who say, "Love sucks." Seriously, people?!? What in the world is wrong with you? Love does not suck, if you think love sucks, you need a change in your perspective or you have no idea what love is, like at all. And for all of you who claim that other people don't know what love is, shut up, like right now. Don't you dare ever tell anyone that they don't know what love is. Sure I just said that, but I meant it in a sense that they themselves have never experienced happiness in any form.
Love doesn't mean glittery feelings towards one person who you plan to spend the rest of your life with, sure that is one form, but there are endless forms. Love comes in forms of gratitude, honesty, self respect, beauty, respect towards others, happiness, patience, kindness etc. All these things express love. Being grateful is such an important part of love. If you can be grateful and thankful for things, then you know how to love. Love doesn't mean loving someone or something, you can just love and you don't have to tell everyone you meet that you love them. People might look at you funny.
Being satisfied with your life at this very moment is love. To those who believe that "love sucks," I have news for you. Just because someone broke up with you, or rejected you, or you feel like you are providing more to a relationship than your other half does NOT mean that love sucks. I am truly sorry that you feel frustrated, but, please don't blame it on love. Love is not to be blamed, love is pure and beautiful and it always will be. It is not love that "sucks," rather, you and your significant other that needs to communicate. Communication is key, and I know you've probably heard this a bajillion times, but it REALLY is. It feels so relieving to be able to open up to a loved one. And that is honesty too. Being honest doesn't mean not lying or hiding the truth, it means following what you believe, if you don't, then you are lying to yourself. And that is a huge crime. You may not be charged for it, but it feels horrible. Lying to yourself is not love.
Loving yourself does NOT mean admiring your beauty, and thinking about how perfect you are. Loving yourself means to be honest to yourself, be happy with what you have and who you are. If you aren't completely happy with what you have and who you are, again, change that perspective. If you still aren't happy, work on it, work on yourself, do things that improve who you are. And to do that, start giving. Give to your community, help a friend, help a stranger, give to Purple Heart or something. PAUSE. When I said help a stranger, don't go picking up hitchhikers, I am not responsible for your crazy decisions. I do not want you to die, and I do not want you to put yourself in danger. I am not taking responsibility for this. If you want to know what not to do, comment below or tweet at me @squeakyNim. I love you all, whether I know you or not and I don't want you dying on me. I'd be really sad.
I wanted to address this because I know everyone had a tough week trying to swallow the terrible news in Boston. Unfortunately, all those boys needed was some love in themselves, for themselves, and for their fellow neighbors. They needed to understand that love is SO much better than violence and hate. Love feels so good, it feels like glitter and cupcakes and rainbows and unicorns and sugar and awesomeness. Hate feels crappy, it really does. Hating someone feels so bad, it makes you want to cry and hit yourself or it makes you want to lash out at the world. The world is filled with love we just have to mine it. To be loved is great but to love is even better. Love and be loved. Share your love and you can make the world better that way.
Don't do this to people you love please.
Love the world, love everything, love yourself, love others, most importantly just love. Revel in that love. You'll understand how perfect everything is.
In reference to last weeks question: My favorite joke is
Makes me laugh every time.
Question of the week:
What is your favorite love song?
Answer below with a link or the name of the song with the artist. I would love to read your comments.
Keep loving!!! Much love.